Nurturing now, thrive later

We all want the best for our kids. We carefully choose their schools, encourage healthy eating, and cheer them on at every soccer game and piano recital. But according to a new study published by the American Psychological Association, one of the most powerful things you can do for your child's future success isn’t found in a textbook or an extracurricular — it's in the warmth of your everyday parenting.

The Science Behind the Snuggles

The study, titled “Nurturing Now, Thriving Later,” draws from research on twins to explore the long-term impact of maternal affection. By studying twins raised in the same environment, researchers were able to isolate the effects of nurturing parenting from other factors like genetics or socioeconomic status.

The findings? Affectionate mothering during childhood is strongly linked to the development of positive personality traits — specifically openness, conscientiousness, and agreeableness. These traits, in turn, have ripple effects on education, career success, physical and mental health, and social well-being throughout life.

In other words, the way you interact with your child today could shape who they become 20, 30, or even 50 years from now.

What Does “Affectionate Mothering” Look Like?

Affectionate parenting isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present, responsive, and emotionally available.

It includes:

• Hugs, cuddles, and physical closeness

• Listening with genuine interest

• Encouraging exploration and creativity

• Setting consistent, loving boundaries

• Offering praise and support without conditions

These seemingly small actions send a powerful message: You are loved. You are safe. You are enough.

And that message builds a strong foundation for confidence, resilience, and success later in life.

It’s Never Too Late to Start

One of the most encouraging aspects of the study is its focus on consistency over perfection. You don’t have to get it right all the time (no one does). What matters most is building a pattern of emotional warmth that your child can count on.

Even if parenting hasn’t always come easy, or if you feel like you’ve missed chances to connect, it’s never too late to begin nurturing more openly. Start with simple steps: a five-minute heart-to-heart at bedtime, a spontaneous compliment, or even just putting your phone down and tuning in.

A Message to Dads and Other Caregivers

While the study specifically focused on maternal affection, these insights apply broadly to all primary caregivers. Whether you're a dad, grandparent, foster parent, or other nurturing figure, your warmth and emotional availability are just as impactful.

Parenting with the Long Game in

Mind

This study reminds us that parenting is a powerful investment — not just in your child’s day-to-day life, but in their future identity and success. So the next time you're tired, frustrated, or wondering if all the effort matters, remember this:

Every act of warmth today can blossom into strength tomorrow.

Your hugs are shaping hearts. Your kindness is building character. And your love? It’s the legacy your child will carry for life.